"Unconsciously, we relive our mother’s anxiety. We repeat our father’s disappointments. We replicate the failed relationships of our parents or grandparents".
Colli K Christante
What if you knew, in the core of your soul, that you were about to embark on a journey that would mark the moment where you finally stepped up and made the difference you were born to make?
What if you could finally unlock what was inside you so that you live your best life out.
Whom would YOU be without your deepest entanglements -- seen and unseen?
“We are born as totally loving beings…
And we spend much of our lives suffering for others using unworkable ways to say ‘I love you.’”
(Eagle, 1991, p.227)
"The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
~ C.G. Jung
Heartfelt gratitude to my mom, dad, siblings and ancestors for your gifts: love, courage, strength and wisdom. I carry those gifts in my heart and with my intuition as my guide ... I dedicate myself to what I love most.
"Children seldom or never dare to live a happier or more fulfilling life than their parents. Unconsciously they remain loyal to unspoken family traditions that work invisibly. Family Constellations are a way of discovering underlying family bonds and forces that have been carried unconsciously over several generations."
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.”
Constellations are a method to quickly bring to the light the root causes of what we are carrying (unconsciously) out as a blind loyalty toward our ancestors. When we acknowledge and give a place to what was weighing down on us, we can redirect ourselves towards another path that we were unable to see before.
“A longing to wander tears my heart when I hear trees rustling in the wind at evening. If one listens to them silently for a long time, the longing reveals its kernel, its meaning. It is not so much a matter of escaping from one's suffering, though it may seem to be so. It is a longing for home, for a memory of the mother, for new metaphors for life. It leads home.” ― Hermann Hesse, Wandering
"The greater soul moves in only one direction, and that is to bring into union that which has been separate".
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
"When there has been a trauma or someone in the family system has been excluded, forgotten, cast out, or suffered a difficult fate, someone of the following generations unconsciously and invariably will step in and bring the lost member's destiny back through living it out in this lifetime effecting us in ways in which we have no understanding. It happens out of a deep but hidden loyalty out of the secret law that will not allow anyone of a family system being denied the right to belong. It is a love so deep that the family member may unconsciously choose to die, rather than "betray" the family bond."
"Trauma isn't what happens to you. It's what happens inside you."
When you have been wounded, dehumanized, violated, somebody has used you, exploited you, you become traumatized and you struggle to come back. Some of us come back and have just survived but we are not truly alive ...
But some of you have come back to life and alive and that implies being playful, taking risks being creative, daring which is different than just being safe. This is why Awakening & Rekindling Desire is the Essential Ingredient of Healing Trauma ... There is a difference between NOT just feeling dead and feeling alive.
Once you put DESIRE as the central organizing principal this is a place where you go to connect, express ourselves that manifests true desire in all areas including sexuality to experience in life aliveness, a life of vibrancy, playfulness.
DESIRE is owning the wanting and showing up. To experience Desire it requires a basic sense of self-worth. If there is a want there has to be an I and that I has to feel special enough to experience their desires. Do you believe you are worthy enough? Important enough? Loveable? Without having to work for it. Just because you are. Just because.
Loveable and desirable are the essential preconditions for DESIRE!!!
Some children have difficulties in dealing with school stress, such as homework, test anxiety, bullying, or peer pressure.
They also may need to discuss their feelings about family issues, particularly if there is a major transition, such as a divorce, a move, or serious illness within the family.
Children often express what's unresolved between the parents or behind the parents. They can also mirror to us what we have long ago supressed.
Through play, different exercises and Family Constellations for children, in a brief period of time, I help them to build resources, to find tranquillity and relief in the difficult areas of their lives
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A Family Constellation is a process that allows you to discover the invisible underlying dynamics that you are involved in, often coming from family of origin.
Bert Hellinger, the founder of
this work (Family Constellations) observed that many of us unconsciously "take on" destructive familia patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, aloneness, addictions, and even mental and physical illnesses as a way of "belonging" in our families.
Family Constellations shows us where these entanglements are and often just the awareness is enough to softly shift the energy.This opens us up to the flow of love that was there all along and so that we can live happier, healthier fulfilled
In short, constellations allow us to break destructive family patterns. They give us a deeper understanding as to why we feel the way we feel.